FLAWLESS - AUGUST 2006 - ANTAR (No4Real4Real)

1. What's the most exciting thing you've ever done? The most exciting thing I have ever done was having the honor to speak the benediction at the Black Alliance Convocation for my city while attended high school. I know doesn’t seem that grand but my passion is to become an inspirational speaker. That event happened to be my first real public speaking engagement. It confirmed my passion and continues to give me confidence. There I was reciting the blessing for the well to do black folks of the town and loved it.

2. When you are not feeling your very best, what do you do to change that? If I am in a funky mood I tend to call one of two people who I consider my support lines. Usually I vent to them and they know enough to hear me through. Once that’s complete they curse me out and make me realize it’s never that bad. During very difficult situations one of them is great at cheering me up by reminding me, “It could be worst you could have that problem and be ugly!” Speaking of which a fresh haircut always does the trick as well.

3. If you could spend the day with 3 famous people who would they be and what would you spend time doing? Three people I would spend my time with are Martin Lawrence, Les Brown, and Hill Harper. I love Martin like cooked food. I would try to do something exciting like hit up Six Flags while trying to get to know him. We would laugh at some of his antics from his sitcom while eating funnel cake on the Ferris wheel. Les Brown is my biggest idol. He is a reknown black inspirational speaker. I would entertain him at my house and cook a serious meal. Over dinner I would pick his brain and get the inside story as to how established his career. Its my biggest desire to follow his path. Where most public speakers famous for other feats like success in business, Les Brown is famous for just being a great speaker. Hill Harper is the attractive black brother on CSI: NY, an inspirational speaker, and recent author of Letters to a Young Brother. Recently I finished the book and fell in love with him. I would like to spend a day with him while visiting several high schools arousing students with his unique style of real-life wisdom.

4. I read on your blog (www.no4real4real.blogspot.com) that you handle death differently than others. how do you deal with death? When it comes to death I am very unmoved. I don’t cry, mop, or express any usual sign of remorse. My roommate says I have no affect or feeling but I approach death my way. We are taught that good people go on to a better place and I believe that. So I don’t mourn but truly celebrate a loss especially if their passing relieved their pain. With the recently lose of my aunt I suggested my immediate family wear white as opposed to the traditional black. It was a sign of cheer that her home coming was not in vain.

5. What is your biggest fear? My biggest fear is FAILURE!!! I am a serious Capricorn and so true to its nature. I am very hard working and persisting in everything. I tend to expect perfection in myself and give my all to obtain it. To try is to fail - I just do! That perfection comes with an awesome burden because I constantly fight not to have any regrets. I find that my regrets are my failures and may ultimately prevent me from accomplishing my goals. As a result I recognize my fear and try not to be so hard on myself. It comforts me to know not everything is a failure but moments of improvement which will take me even further.

6. You seem to be pretty well traveled. out of all of the cities you've visited which city would you like to live in and why? Yeah I am hard-headed when it comes to travel. I am always down to break out and go anywhere at a moments notice. Most of my travels have been domestic and of them all the one I enjoy the most is New York City. The funny thing is most people already believe me to be a New Yorker but I am all Connecticut through and through. I will admit when I am in New York I am more alive and so much more myself than in CT. Giving my sexuality there is a comfort level in New York that I believe I will never obtain in CT.

7. What are some of your favorite sweets? (be explicit with this one okay?) I am so not big on sweets. Well…now I am not. ‘Cause let me tell you, when I high school through college I used to tear up some Hostess Honey Buns. They were two for a dollar. Everyday I had at least two if not more. I was a beast. It got so bad that three years ago I put myself on a fast for a year and didn’t eat a single one. Talk about will power but when that year was up I got all excited and eat one. I hated it and haven’t had one since. Talk about strange. Now if I get the urge for a sweet now I would eat a Drakes Coffee Cake or the frozen fruit juice bar with the whole chunks of fruit. I tear those up. Mango happens to be my favorite.